Wednesday, June 10, 2009

When you want to save someone, start with yourself - and conversations from Mr. Strong during the early years









What do you think your mother will say about us?


When my first marriage ended, I stood taller. While my self-esteem had taken a beating, a renewed sense of confidence seeped in as I began to be true to my feelings.


What will your mother say about me being 14 years older than you?


When I dated, I had always been drawn to the underdog. To the boys and men who needed saving. It was my self-proposed plan to save them.


I never thought I could be a father figure to boys.


When the boys were born, I was a single mother. I just didn't get the credit for it until I was divorced. From the moment I saw them, I knew I would do whatever it took for them to make it in this world. No need to rely on any one. It was our own twisted version of us and them.


Please stay tonight. I really want you to stay.


When you are busy saving others, you don't have to worry about revealing the skeletons in your own closet.


I love you.


When you let your guard down, when you really let someone know you, it is healing. I never dreamed it would be me who needed saving.

Happy Anniversary, Mr. Strong! Thanks for saving me.

41 comments:

♥ Braja said...

And happy anniversary to you too Mrs Strong :))
xx

Wonderful World of Weiners said...

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Hallie

Candice said...

Beautiful!!

Happy Anniversary to you both. :)

Gaston Studio said...

Well, I wasn't expecting to be crying while having my coffee this morning Beth, but darn if you didn't make be burst into tears with this post.

Fabulous revelation; happy anniversary to both of you!!

Beth said...

Braja - Thanks! I actually love being married this time around.

Hallie - I'd love to donate! Maybe I can donate a photograph... or money. I'll email you.

Candice - Thanks! It has been a fun adventure! And with 4 teenagers in tow.

Jane - Oh, I didn't mean to make you cry. It has been amazing to be with someone who builds me up. But it took going through the others to appreciate it.

Michele said...

Happy Anniversary!!

Isn't it nice when it is right?

remember moments said...

Happy Super Duper Anniversary to you and Mr. Strong!!!

lisa said...

Love is good. Happy Anniversary.

Chapati said...

"When you let your guard down, when you really let someone know you, it is healing. I never dreamed it would be me who needed saving."

Thats really nice, thanks :-)

Happy Anniversary :D

only a movie said...

Happy anniversary Beth. I loved this post. Makes me a little teary because I can really relate.

:-)

Michele said...

How beautiful! Happy Anniversary to you both!

Hugz,
Michele

Anonymous said...

The real question is who save who or however that grammer goes.Mr (not always) Strong

H.K. said...

What a great story! Happy anniversary!

Optimistic Pessimist said...

Beautiful...i love this!

Pseudonymous High School Teacher said...

Really cool juxtapostioning. And Happy Anniversary ; -)

M.J. said...

Happy anniversary to you both! This was a very interesting post--creatively written and full of emotion. Keep 'em coming!

beth said...

what a lovely post! happy anniversary!

carma said...

awwwwwww...have a wonderful anniversary! Sounds like you were meant to be together. I love a happy ending :D

Michel said...

SO I assume you are going to get lucky this evening????

HAPPY Anniversary!

THAT was a wonderful post!

Chris said...

Very nice, I'm sure Mr. Strong appreciates it.

mo.stoneskin said...

I hope you have a lovely day. Anniversaries are so special. Well done.

Beth said...

Michele - It makes all the difference when it is the right one.

remember moments and lisa - Thanks!

Chapati - When I write about my husband, there are many, many words to choose from. 95% of them are good!

Erin - Actually, I was thinking about you and your guy this morning when I wrote this. Everything happens for a reason.

Michele - Thanks! Hugs to you, too!

Mr. Strong - Hey, honey! You get extra kisses any time you want.

H.K. - There is so much more to the story. So much more.

Optimistic Pessimist - I love this story, too!

Psuedo - Thanks! I was hoping people would get the thought pattern. And juxtapositioning is a word I need to use more often.

M.J. - I'm always emotional about my man. He really is the cover for my pot (figuratively speaking).

beth - Thanks!

Carma - I love happy endings, too. And I never doubt that we were meant to be together. The pieces all just fell together.

Michel - Lucky tonight? Is that what is supposed to happen? :)

Chris - Mr. Strong is my best blog reader even if he doesn't always comment in writing.

Mo - Thanks! We don't really play up the anniversary part. I'm just happy to be with him.

Hit 40 said...

Happy Anniversary!! Beautiful post to your husband.

Nice to have someone to lean on through the good times and the bad!!

SCHOOL OUT YET?? I have 2 more days..... tick tock

Deb said...

Wow - what a beautiful tribute to your husband and to your marriage. A very happy anniversary to you guys - CELEBRATE!

Deb said...

oh beth... how poignant and actually really romantic! happy anniversary! scoring a soul mate rocks!!

Smart Mouth Broad said...

That was beautiful, Beth! Happy anniversary to you and Mr. Strong! I'm glad you found each other.

Kulio said...

Ohhhhh, that is soooo beautiful!!! Happy Day to you both!

Patresa Hartman said...

oh, this is really lovely! and happy anniversary. :)

Comedy Goddess said...

When Bill came back into my life the first thing I said was, What took you so long?

I was unhappily married to someone else. I had a one yr old baby girl and knew it was now or never to get myself out of that unhealthy marriage.

Knowing that Bill was back made it so much easier. He is my knight in shining armor!

Blessings to you and your Mr.!

Captain Dumbass said...

Happy Anniversary, Strong's.

sun lover said...

Even the strong sometimes need saved. What a wonderful post. We now have a date in common. Your anniversary ='s my birthday. Hope your day was as great as mine!

Otin said...

Damn it! I can't even say something inappropriate or funny! That was a great tribute to your love. :)

Reinvent Dad said...

What a special tender post - great tribute to Mr. Strong! Happy Anniversary Beth.

Fragrant Liar said...

Happy anniversary! That was a lovely tribute to your marriage and to yourself! Good for you.

Fragrant Liar said...

Woopsie, I should clarify. I meant to "yourself" because you recognized what you needed and what you didn't need and adjusted your decision making for a better outcome. So while your hubby may have saved you (thanks hubby), you did most of the hard work building up to that time, so I wanted to give you kudos too. Best!

Midwest Mommy said...

Oh Happy Anniversary!

followthatdog said...

Oh man, I'm weepy. So sweet! Happy Anniversary. It sounds like you found the husband you deserve. Much happiness to both of you.

Missy said...

You just provided me with an AHA moment! When you are busy saving others... That is so true! OMG!~ I have done this my entire life...

Anna Lefler said...

What a lovely post!

Wishing you a wonderful anniversary!

:-D Anna

Debbie said...

A very happy anniversary to you both!

Southern Drawl said...

Awww, Happy Anniversary!